Today I have realized how true love is based on freedom, on independence, and on giving to each person we meet exactly what this person is asking from us without crossing the limits of our independence and of his/her independence. No more, no less.
Someone very loved to me has gone. Don’t be scared!!…She has not died 🙂 …She is still alive, but she has decided to separate our paths. And suddenly, I was understanding that it was the right decision…even when I don’t agree with her judgments about our «problems», the decision was the right one!!…because her soul was saying to me «I cannot live with this kind of love»…»What you give me is not what I need», and unfortunately I was not able to read it.
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You know?…sometimes we are so full of ourselves, of our knowledge, of our best intentions….that we forget what is essential: to focus in the other human being without loosing yourself. I lost myself, but now I’m again on my way. Only when we are ourselves we can love another human being, creating the right connection. Again, is a social dialog, but sometimes a very subtle one.
There is a lot of things to learn in life. Sometimes we learn them in a painful way, but it seems to be part of it.
I’m sorry, baby…I was not skilled enough. Now that I’m starting to be skilled, I can start to love you truly, as you are, from the right distance, with the right perspective.